Anyone that ever said “Relationships are supposed to be easy” was probably single. Relationships are a process. In the early days when you first meet that special someone you are getting to know each other. You may feel endless amounts of energy, can’t see enough of that person, and never run out of things to say to each other. This is building the foundation of the relationship which some may call the Honeymoon phase.
Intimacy and the Honeymoon phase can last as long as we maintain it. This takes work. Anything worth having in our lives long term takes work. Our priorities and life choices effect this. If we stretch ourselves to thin and neglect our relationships the reaction is very much the same as when we neglect maintaining our vehicles. Time consuming and very expensive! When we take the time to get to know someone and let them into our lives we need to maintain that connection in order to have the depth and intimacy that we all deserve.
When we are disconnected from the people we love it is noticeable to both parties. So don’t think that you are fooling this person. They are just as aware of the disconnect but the question is…what are you both prepared to do about it?
So with Valentines Day in mind take some time to reconnect with your partner and other loving relationships in your life. At my grandparent’s 60th wedding anniversary party last year we asked them what the secret to lasting love was. My grandfather said “Treat that person the way you want to be treated.” Words to live by!